On your last paragraph, that’s a simple one. If you are more selective about who you sleep with, the repercussions of having slept with that person are far less severe.
If you have a baby with a woman that you are totally fine with marrying, there’s relatively little to be upset about. If you’re just doing your thing and she gets pregnant…
On your last paragraph, that’s a simple one. If you are more selective about who you sleep with, the repercussions of having slept with that person are far less severe.
If you have a baby with a woman that you are totally fine with marrying, there’s relatively little to be upset about. If you’re just doing your thing and she gets pregnant but you don’t really even like her, that’s a problem for everyone.
Being more selective at the start is a good way to make potential life changing experiences much, much more palatable.
Consent is not where that conversation stops. Two people often consent on sex and they don’t even want to date, or at least one of them doesn’t. Where does that leave the potential kid? The more permissive model leaves far more cracks for people to fall through.
That’s a fair point, but I think the solution is comprehensive and effective sex education and access to contraception, rather than social pressure to wait until marriage.
Again, I’d emphasize that blue states that take the approach I favor have a better record of reducing teen pregnancy and unwanted births than red states that have more cultural pressure around abstinence. Northern European countries with similarly liberal norms also have good outcomes on this score.
On your last paragraph, that’s a simple one. If you are more selective about who you sleep with, the repercussions of having slept with that person are far less severe.
If you have a baby with a woman that you are totally fine with marrying, there’s relatively little to be upset about. If you’re just doing your thing and she gets pregnant but you don’t really even like her, that’s a problem for everyone.
Being more selective at the start is a good way to make potential life changing experiences much, much more palatable.
Consent is not where that conversation stops. Two people often consent on sex and they don’t even want to date, or at least one of them doesn’t. Where does that leave the potential kid? The more permissive model leaves far more cracks for people to fall through.
That’s a fair point, but I think the solution is comprehensive and effective sex education and access to contraception, rather than social pressure to wait until marriage.
Again, I’d emphasize that blue states that take the approach I favor have a better record of reducing teen pregnancy and unwanted births than red states that have more cultural pressure around abstinence. Northern European countries with similarly liberal norms also have good outcomes on this score.