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Jan 18·edited Jan 18Liked by Sarah Haider

What exactly was Adam's point about the car repair? Knowing how to change a tire or boost a battery is what makes a man? Sorry, but that's idiotic. Is it also important for a man to know how to make a fire using only sticks? Or skin a deer? Do women need to know how to sew? People need to know the skills that relate to the responsibilities they are relied on for in the era they live.

I get that there are things that can reasonably be considered to be masculine traits, but being into cars is not one of them.

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Jan 16Liked by Sarah Haider

"...And that is a hose that is sucking backwards!" is a great line and I encourage the two of you to continue leveling accusations like this against each other in the future :)

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Look forward to listening to this episode. Adam is a liberal. Or, as they them now, ‘conservative’

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Louisville, Kentucky I would describe as quite feminine, and generally one of the most social justice-y places outside of the West Coast.

It's also one of the most BLM cities in the country; there is a famous mural to Breonna Taylor and there's a whole story about how a BLM activist tried to shoot a mayoral candidate, the local BLM chapter bailed him out for $100,000 and gave a snarky social media response to the notion that firing a glock at a political candidate was a bad thing.

But on the feminine side, I would agree that horse culture is quite feminized, and all the classic pinstripe suits and effete accents don't exactly seem like "traditional masculinity". West Virginia and Ohio exude a way more masculine vibe than Kentucky in general, with apologies to Wilfried Reilly.

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This was fun! Meghan and Adam should date.

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The next time I need to explain to a younger friend how we talked in the 80’s, I’ll just play this episode and let them drink in Adam Carolla.

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Jan 18·edited Jan 18

Prostate examination is not effective in actually detecting prostate cancer when used as a screening test; the research on it is unfavorable and it is not generally recommended (e.g. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29531107/). At this point, it is more of a med student hazing ritual, although someone might argue it has some limited uses outside of screening.

Screening colonoscopies are more contested; the research findings are not that great but it's still widely done in the U.S. There's also a movement to go to stool testing and to do colonoscopies only if the initial test is positive. It's unclear if any of these approaches actually save lives. This is a big Vinay Prasad hobby horse.

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Jan 18·edited Jan 18

This was supposed to be a reply to Erica Etelson below.

I've never seen any breakdowns by sex, but I strongly suspect that the men in this situation greatly outnumber the women.

Keep in mind that women are greatly outpacing men in college enrollment (current trends suggest US colleges could be 65-70 percent female in a couple decades - hat tip to Richard Reeves).

Due to this college gap, there could be two results:

1. More young women get jobs that allow them to live on their own.

2 Even if women graduate college and don't have "good" jobs, those who went away are used to communal living and are more likely to take on roommate to share expenses. My own anecdata suggests that people who never had the experience of residential college are wary of living with roommates so will stay with parents longer

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I looked up the David Allen Grier quote and listened to the clip that was played on Coralla’s show and it seems all that DAG said was Adam was a “right wing troll” and he “couldn’t do it anymore” --as in appearing on his show. There were no mentions of white supremacy or calling Adam a racist.

So it might be that Corolla is hearing what he wants to hear.

My boys are under 30 and they live on their own in an apartment they pay for. They still come home almost every weekend. They are 20 and 23. The younger has a girlfriend. The older has a full time job. There is still some isolation and homesickness. They don’t have a social life in the city where they are living. It’s a different world where they get all of their entertainment on the phone and I think when the weekend arrives instead of going out and talking to people they come home where it’s familiar. I’m not sure how to advise them or if I can even help apart from saying stop coming home which is hard to do.

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Are the majority of women under the age of 30 living with their parents too? Re: young men living with parents, are the majority just out of high school or college? Does it taper of signifantly as they approach 30? I sure hope so.

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First!!!!!!!

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It’d be interesting to make a diagram with expected skills or skill sets for the two sexes over time. Changing a tire is definitely on its way out with fix-a-flat compressed air goop cans and “drive while flat” tires…but it’s always more attractive (regardless of your sex) and convenient to be able to DO THINGS rather than be ignorant/incompetent.

The fighting bit shows Adam’s age. He doesn’t realize how many people are carrying concealed these days—the time of public macho confrontation is over. You are likely to get shot if you get out your car and shove someone.

As a 50 year-old man, my wife expects me to be able to do “man stuff”—build/remodel our house, basic car stuff, cut down trees, back a trailer, hunt (yes, skin and quarter a deer), confront a burglar, etc. And while she would be embarrassed for me to get into a stupid physical confrontation with a stranger, she would be appalled if I was not prepared for violence if it was necessary to protect her and/or our kids.

If I fail to pass on these skills to my kids (son and daughter) isn’t that on me? I wonder if Adam’s kids know how to change a tire or jump a car? It’s hilarious when people our age complain about “kids these days”. Didn’t we raise them?

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Great episode! Adam is a fantastic guest.

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15th!

The questions about comedy reminded me that Kat Timpf would be a good guest for you two.

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Great interview. I'm not at all surprised that 30 year old Sarah is not in Adam's demographic.

Anyone under age 45 would be totally baffled by his constant 1970's-1980's pop culture references, especially television, movies and music. Adam's encyclopedic knowledge of the Love Boat and Battle of the Network Stars likely won't resonate with younger folks.

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Love it.

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